The Concept of Curses & Negative Attachments

These ideas can be harmful. Here's my offer of a different perspective.

Occasionally someone reaches out for support because they are concerned that they have a negative energetic attachment that is hindering their growth or getting in the way of them feeling balanced or safe in their lives. I know I can help them, but my interpretation of what is happening is going to be different.

I saw a couple recently who were told by a psychic that a family curse was the reason they couldn’t conceive, which they’d been trying to do with difficulty and through multiple rounds of IVF treatments. I was sad to hear that they had been told this. Words are very powerful and as practitioners, our mindful, professional and careful discernment and delivery of what is happening for a client is critical. Our words can create long lasting incredible healing and positive effects. They can also be harmful, as I felt was the case in this situation.

The couple shared this information with me at the end of their session. They were clearly distressed by the words and concept and were trying to find a way forward which was one of the reasons, I believe, that they came to me. As I was sharing my perspective on the idea of curses and encouraged them not to take the message they received about this to heart, I was shown by the spirit realm how the woman’s grandmother had come through earlier on in our session. How she pointed to a part of her own personality that was fear based and initially rejecting of new ideas, that felt quite restrictive. She showed this pattern in the family blood line, which my client confirmed, and then showed how her granddaughter is trying to change this pattern now in her life. I could see that it took a lot of effort for my client to fight against this pattern, which she also confirmed. Her grandmother then offered healing energy work to support actually shifting the pattern through her granddaughter for her and her blood line so she didn’t need to fight against it with such effort but would be released of its strong hold and I could feel a distinct softening in my client and the pride and relief from her grandmother.

Now perhaps someone else might have perceived a pattern like that as a “family curse,” but I would never see it that way. We pick these patterns up from our bloodlines, from the traumas our ancestors have experienced and from our own traumas. These aren’t curses from my perspective. They are a natural part of being in a body and we have the opportunity to heal and evolve through them as the generations continue.

In this case, what happened was a beautiful offering of healing that came through for her and her family from the loving energy and intention of her grandmother and was the right direction at the right time for her soul’s growth and development. It unfolded beautifully and naturally within the session with information that was validated by my client the whole way through so that she could feel held, safe and connected in the process. I don’t know if it will help them conceive, but it isn’t for any of us to know yet. What is in front of them now is a slightly different playing field that will help them be more present in the process of their evolving journey.

We have a lot of media out there spinning ideas and representations about curses and negative attachments for entertainment purposes who have little connection with actual energy work or training in mediumship or psychic practices. We also don’t have many standards of practice that are ingrained in these professions and there is a wide variety of training and understanding of how to interpret the information and energy we perceive. For me, and most mediums who I’ve trained with around the world, our perspective is generally as outline here. The concepts of curses and negative attachments are a misunderstood interpretation of what is happening. The spirits connected with us are loving and are here to help us learn from and heal through the joys and struggles we experience. They are not the cause or perpetrators of our pain or difficulty.

It is important to share that some cultures very much believe curses and negative attachments to be true. Generally in this case these beliefs are ingrained in the culture so that interpretations from the spirit or energy realm are matching a collective understanding.

When there is one belief structure interacting with a very different one, for example while in a reading or session between a practitioner who has one belief system and client who has a very different one, it can leave room for much misunderstanding. That is why it is very important to be discerning with who you invite into your energy or psychic space to support you and make sure their approach is clearly outlined so you can make an educated decision if they are a good fit for you. Above all, follow your intuition and remember that there is room for many truths.

Always ask if you feel unclear or leave a session not feeling good about something. You may not be understanding the same thing as your practitioner. There is often a huge amount of information and energy exchange to fit into few words and little time. I have always been grateful when a client reaches out for clarification if something didn’t sit well with them after a session. It almost always is a misunderstanding and I am so glad to have the opportunity to clarify and provide context.

You can read about another kind of blending of energy from a loved one who has recently passed that is relevant and related to this subject. In general though, negatively charged or intended energy attachments or curses just don’t fit into my way of seeing the world, nor are they involved at all in the spirit connections I have the amazing honor to facilitate.